I’ve (39f) have been dating this man (41m) for about a month. We have had 5 dates and one sleepover. We have not had sex or done anything past making out. When we first started dating after the second date I didn’t hear from him for about a week then he reached out and apologized saying he wasn’t ready to date bc he just moved to my city but didn’t want to ghost me. I thanked him for not ghosting and said if he wanted to be friends I was ok with that. For some reason, me saying that prompted him to pursue me harder. We went out again after that conversation and decided to take things slow. I’m a single parent and my free time is somewhat limited. Since then we have had three more dates. He has initiated every date. We have done activities on the dates but we have also done a considerable amount of drinking, which I’m not a huge fan of bc things start to get fuzzy for me and I forget things I’ve said. Between our dates there isn’t a whole lot of communication from him except to make plans for the next time we see one another. I don’t expect to be texted all day everyday but it doesn’t make me feel very secure between dates. This may just be a “me” thing and I can accept that but I’m wondering if this is just a compatibility thing and I should end it now before being too invested?
Before he left my place Saturday I had asked if he wanted to get together that evening and at first he said “I’m down” and then changed and said he might get drinks with a friend and to text him later in the day and we could play it by ear. I had a rare free weekend. I texted him later in the day, he replied 3 hours later saying he fell asleep and was studying for work the rest of the night. I was annoyed bc he didn’t take advantage of my rare free time. He apologized for it, I thanked him and didn’t hear anything from him today until I reached out. Now that I type it out I feel like the writing is on the wall but I guess I want to make sure before I end it. Is he just moving at a slower pace? Should I give him a chance to communicate more with me between dates or should I be feeling like he’s more excited about me?
